Originally posted by sven   OK is one thing, maybe more acceptable but you're obviously getting my drift. There is a big difference in my opinion between "just having sex" and "a full blown affair with emotions involved".

Originally posted by sven What if the ball massage was virtual, would it be ok then ??

sven, you got one of these

Originally posted by yingyang i think if you have a partner and you are unfaithful wether by having sex or oral or balls massage whatever you want to call it then you are a lowlife cheat who doesnt deserve to have a partner. thats just my oppinion.   i also believe if you are a woman who has caught you boyfriend/ husband out and let them get away with it then you are either a fool or a desperate bunny boiler.. just my oppinion of cause

Originally posted by London Lad Originally posted by gringa_1981 Is this really that culturally acceptable or is he just usting our cultural differences as an excuse to be a cheating a**hole?? From the point of asking this first question in post No1 of the thread, you apear to have gained a great deal of information as you have now concluded with this statement. Originally posted by gringa_1981 And from my experience it is considered normal in Rio de Janeiro for men to A. see a prostitute for ones first sexual experience and B. continue going to prostitutes during one's male life for oral sex and "massages".   In the light of the two quotes for your words above, can you let us know, what information has lead to to answer your own question in this manor? It would appear that in just over a month you have asstablished that it is "considered normal" for men to visit prostitutes in Rio de Janeiro, can you explain how it is you have come to this conclusion?

London Lad;  my original post was written right when I found out about what happenend.  I was very emotional and hadn't had much time to process what happenend.  What has occured in the meantime is that I have calmed down, meditated on the situation, and forgiven him. 

Regarding my statement about carioca men seeing sex workers and going to termas as "normal", I have spoken to various people since the incident and found that it is not uncommon for men to go to "termas" here in Rio, married or unmarried.  I haven't taken an exhaustive survey, but from what I've heard it leads me to believe this is fairly normalized behavior.

Also, try doing a google search for "termas" and "rio de Janeiro", and you will see that there are many many of these places.  Obviously there must be a great demand for them. Do you really think that only single men go to these places? 
Like I've already said a few times, I don't agree with what he did...but I have forgiven him. Think of me what you will. 

Originally posted by gringa_1981  Think of me what you will.